Art done by my cousin, Nicolle Isajar. Instagram Nicolleisajar

For the most part, as women and young girls we can all agree that our hair is important to us right? We care about its look and ultimately if it looks good, we feel good.

My hair was definitely a major part of my self-esteem growing up, maybe a little too much. I remember one morning my pre-teen self was sitting cross legged on my bedroom floor, looking in the mirror examining my hair. I had combed through my coils to stretch it out with the hopes that it would somehow loose its natural texture and transform into a silky smooth mane.  Well, that did not happen and my hair just got bigger. I recall being extremely agitated and upset at my big puffy hair, so I found some scissors and–you guessed right–started to cut away in an attempt to remove the “fluff”. Nevertheless, my mother found me and screamed “Como se le ocurre!!”.  I was un-phased by her reaction though,  because at that moment I wanted different hair, I wanted “pretty” smooth, long hair.

The present me thinks back on this and knows that my hair was not the problem. The standard of beauty showcased by society and the media was the issue. The ingrained ideals that straight, long hair is prettier was also one of the main culprits and the conversation around  “good” and “bad” hair definitely penetrated my pre-teen brain.

The truth is that if I could talk to myself back then, I would show up with my ‘Big Hair, Don’t Care’ attitude in all of its glory.  I would tell me how much I presently love my type 3 spirally curly hair. I would emphasize that my hair is a part of my identity and a representation of my roots. I would beg myself not to waste time trying to live up to standards of beauty that were created to cripple me and lock me into a box. Most importantly, I would repeat  over and over that ‘God made no mistakes when he created every inch of me, including my hair!’

Overall, what I am trying to say in all my rambling is,  don’t believe the hype behind any “standard of beauty” fed to us in spoon fulls daily by the media and society. Be your own standard of beauty. Embrace you and your natural curly, kinky, fro, wavy  or whatever hair and don’t care because in the end, that is what beauty is about.